It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.
– Charles Spurgeon

The Grass Is Always Greener On The Other Side?

I’m sure that you would have heard this very famous, and in my opinion, an over used phrase- The grass is always greener on the other side! Like everyone, even I’m bored to death hearing it many a time especially when I touched the topic of “change” with someone. But then, I had some thinking around this very special phrase and my mind threw me back a more interesting analogy out of it that the grass has the same green color on our end as well. Yes, there is a big similarity that we fail to recognize! Understood? Okay, let me try to throw some light on it with an example.

In whatever job I had been, it’s just so difficult for me to satisfy that untamed urge residing inside me. To be precise, I mean after getting into a new job I would start missing my last job. If not that, I was always infatuated towards other jobs and other’s jobs and this actually always denied me from enjoying my current work! I feel pity on myself for it.

Green Grass Funny

I Have Lived That Miserable Feeling

I developed this tendency of seeing and appreciating the positives of the others’ and only compare the negatives of my current situation with them. I ended up being a very unhappy, irritated, murky, depressed, always cribbing, negative and a very dejected person who started disdaining life. Life and everything about it begun to look so mundane, so insipid to me. And one day I realized what is happening to me? I knew that something was wrong. I started to analyze my whole situation, I realized I was such a fool to compare apples with oranges. Yes, that’s it! I was just being so preposterous. I decided to take corrective actions.

Bouncing Back To Life

The first thing that I did was listing down all the awesome things around me, about my job, about my life, about the people around me and believe me, I felt so relieved, so happy and so blessed. Soon I realized that I just don’t miss anything in life now. It’s simply perfect! Well, easy as it may sound, but when you try you will know that it’s not so simple, but hey no harm in trying, right?

Its essential to comprehend the importance of what you have, what you hold and only then, you can appreciate the value of life. Push yourself to come out of this grotesque labyrinth that would eventually kill your happiness. It would change you from inside without you even knowing it. It would turn you into a terrible, frustrating and a miserable person. And I am sure, nobody would want to end up there, and that too being alone. Alone? Alone because nobody wants to be in the company of such people who just spread negativity around them! It’s scary, isn’t it?

Bouncing back to life

See The Green Grass On Your Side

Like I said, try to see the ‘green’ grass on your side. If that’s difficult for you, here is another way at looking into the whole situation- try to observe the negatives of the others’ and then, compare and appreciate what you have, but others don’t. But, I won’t recommend this as I don’t want you to end up looking into negatives, even if it’s not yours. See the positives and appreciate the good things you have and this will make you love wherever you stand now. It will fill you with confidence and self-belief.

Love your life. You just get it only once and it’s just too short to crib about what you don’t have. I know its hardwired within us to notice the happiness of what we don’t have. But, whenever your mind pushes you to that dead end, just rebuke it, ask it to shut up and listen to your heart, take a cup of coffee, pick some amazing book, sit in a balcony and enjoy and cherish the moments. You will fall in love with life! Believe me. It worked for me. I am sure, it will work for you as well.

The Movie: To Rome With Love

There is this movie which I watched few months ago, called “To Rome with love”, in which one of the characters Leopoldo lives a mundane life with his wife and two children until on fine day when he wakes up to discover that he has become a national celebrity. Paparazzi start documenting his everyday life. Initially, he loves it and enjoys every bit of it, but then it starts getting on to his nerves. Eventually, he starts craving for his old life, the old boring one. And it happens! Media abandons Leopoldo when they found someone more interesting than him. At first, Leopoldo welcomes the return to his old life. But then, one day he breaks down when no one asks for his autograph on the road. And that’s the lesson of the movie: Life can be monotonous and wearying whether one is a celebrity or a normal man. It’s just how you chose to live it. You can choose to be happy or otherwise, but it’s in your own hands!

Keep smiling always… It takes nothing!

The purpose of our lives is to be happy.
– Dalai Lama